I remembered when I was young and all I had to do is make a statement on people twice my age and I instantly get some form of advice or suggestion. For example, I mentioned once that I bought a used car (my first one for $300 payable in three months). One of the guys said “Why buy used? When I was your age my first car was a brand new xxxxxx”.
Or this one, after I bought my very first brand new car: “You know, you could have gotten it at $500 less more, because my friend bought one at a discounted price”. Did I get irritated? Of course, but I didn’t show it.
But there is value to those statements.
Over the years, I learned that the best way to avoid a trouble-free car is to buy one of the top three brands and it’s widely known who they are. Then I kept it for at least 7-11 years, lowering the overall cost as the years rolled by.
It saved me from countless trips to the mechanic, and sweating out what’s wrong with it. Of course, this doesn’t happen to people that are knowledgeable with cars. At least before electronics took charge of the functioning of all types of vehicles.
I also learned to find the best bargains for major purchases from all the statements I heard from people. Of course, my “advisers” saying all those wise words were intent on giving me wisdom learned over the years. But it irritated me at first.
I may have over a two dozen relatives and more than four dozen friends and acquaintances that gave me advice all through the decades. Some I ignored but some I kept in my memory banks. Then when it’s time to use them, I take them out of my brain files and heeded their advice.
I think my parents even tried to mold me into becoming a businessman but I shied away from it, preferring to hang out with friends or do cool things other than becoming an entrepreneur. That’s one unsolicited advice that I didn’t choose to follow. Over the years, I think it was better that way because I needed to learn how it is start from the very bottom so I would appreciated people more.
One advice (in the unsolicited category) that I will appreciate for the rest of my life are the people that preached God’s teachings to me. It took decades before I fully understood what they’re talking about, but my life was so much better because of that.