Month: May 2016

Unsolicited Advice

I remembered when I was young and all I had to do is make a statement on people twice my age and I instantly get some form of advice or suggestion. For example, I mentioned once that I bought a used car (my first one for $300 payable in three months). One of the guys said “Why buy used?  When I was your age my first car was a brand new xxxxxx”.

Or this one, after I bought my very first brand new car:  “You know, you could have gotten it at $500 less more, because my friend bought one at a discounted price”.  Did I get irritated? Of course, but I didn’t show it.

But there is value to those statements.

Over the years, I learned that the best way to avoid a trouble-free car is to buy one of the top three brands and it’s widely known who they are. Then I kept it for at least 7-11 years, lowering the overall cost as the years rolled by.

It saved me from countless trips to the mechanic, and sweating out what’s wrong with it. Of course, this doesn’t happen to people that are knowledgeable with cars. At least before electronics took charge of the functioning of all types of vehicles.

I also learned to find the best bargains for major purchases from all the statements I heard from people. Of course, my “advisers” saying all those wise words were intent on giving me wisdom learned over the years. But it irritated me at first.

I may have over a two dozen relatives and more than four dozen friends and acquaintances that gave me advice all through the decades. Some I ignored but some I kept in my memory banks. Then when it’s time to use them, I take them out of my brain files and heeded their advice.

I think my parents even tried to mold me into becoming a businessman but I shied away from it, preferring to hang out with friends or do cool things other than becoming an entrepreneur. That’s one unsolicited advice that I didn’t choose to follow. Over the years, I think it was better that way because I needed to learn how it is start from the very bottom so I would appreciated people more.

One advice (in the unsolicited category) that I will appreciate for the rest of my life are the people that preached God’s teachings to me. It took decades before I fully understood what they’re talking about, but my life was so much better because of that.


The Invincible Young Me

I don’t know about you but when I was young (teenager and even years later) I felt almost invincible up to a certain point. I walked dark and suspect alleyways without any weapons on me but I felt that if anyone accosted me, I would feel sorry for the guy who tried it after a few minutes or so.

Another thing is eating vegetables:  When I was young our diet is consisted mostly of fish, rice and vegetables. I hated vegetables so when I had the chance of not eating it in my early twenties – I avoided it. I figured I didn’t need it. In fact one of my colleagues tried preaching to me about eating a vegetarian diet. But she has tons of pimples so I was thinking – maybe the vegetarian diet will be bad for my face too.

Then I reached middle age.

When one sickness after another started affecting me I started to think about getting a better diet. My wife and I went to a few licensed experts on nutrition and I get to slowly change my diet. Don’t get me wrong – I still eat unhealthy sometimes but no longer all the time so that’s progress.

Some kids learn early in life that they need to watch what they eat and I admire them. I never really took the time to learn what’s good nutrition because I preferred tasty food. The sweeter and fatter the better.  I had to live with the consequence.  I had a multiple bypass surgery at an early age which I think I could have avoided by having a healthy diet. My fitness was excellent because in the navy, we had mandatory fitness programs and evaluation. My nutrition, however – was mediocre.

I’m glad I had the chance to tweak my lifestyle a little bit, and eat more veggies, fruits and good grains. Would it help me live longer? Maybe! But it’s not about living longer but rather living a life free from pain and unnecessary illness.

Studies prove that at any age, if we change our nutrition to healthy choices, it will benefit us tremendously. We will experience a big improvement in our well being even if we are in our 40s, 50s, 60s and beyond.

I am a good guinea pig for that lifestyle change. I suffer less pain and illnesses because of a newfound dietary inspiration. Don’t worry, I adapted to the change in taste after about three weeks of eating formerly “boring” food.

If I can do it, anybody can!