Have you ever faced a major decision or a fork in the road of life that you didn’t know what to do?
Have you experienced an electrifying event that was so emotionally draining that you felt so lost on how to act?
What did you do?
Personally, as I remember now – I did seek advice from people. I must have interviewed a few of my trusted friends and relatives so much that I think they get tired of me asking about my dilemma.
I asked them: “Should I buy a used TV or a new one?”
(I saw your eyes roll!)
So this was decades ago, but I have always relied on people’s advice on many things (including buying my first TV), especially major ones. It’s easier when I got married because I can ask advice 24/7 from my wife. How convenient huh?
When I have to do a major purchase or a lifestyle change – I always seek counsel. It doesn’t have to be from a person. It can be from several books and magazines, and yes, even google, youtube or startpage.
The Book of Proverbs stated – “In multitude of counsel there is safety”. It means the more people you ask for advice, the better your decision will be.
When we encounter some of life’s heavy battering rams, it is best to find the best shield for it. One of the best ways to do is to find an elderly person with enough wisdom to know what to do in the situation we’re in. Some of our more mature peers (friends or family) are good options too.
This is where it may get a little tricky. How do you know if the person will give you a good advice? Look at their lives – do they have lives that you would like to have? How do they relate to people? Do they have integrity? practice honesty? considerate to other people?
Researching in the internet these days have given us 24/7 access to information that could help us make the right choice. It is easy to type a few keywords (for example: how to avoid allergies) and we are presented with a plethora of websites or forums about the subject matter.
Sometimes it can be overwhelming. Again, we have to screen if the forum, or video or website makes sense.
Armed with this newfound wealth of information, we are ready finally to make the right move.
Kings, emperors, presidents and other heads of state are surrounded by people who give them counsel on every single aspect of government. In fact, the best administrations find the smartest people and hire them to utilize their intelligence (and wisdom) in running the state.
Even the second wisest man who ever lived – Solomon – had a group of advisers. Can you imagine the amount of prestige you would have if you are one of his advisers?
Successful people are typically people who consistently make good, sound decisions. If you want to be one of them, find yourself a few or even many counselors. You’ll have much fewer regrets in life!
Then you can be the counselor some day!