Last night was an eye-opening first-hand experience on the latest in technology. A friend in her high-end luxury car with a prestigious brand name reported that her car computer was telling her to shut down her engine because of “lack of coolant”. Opening the hood itself was not as intuitive as cars were before electronics dominated the engine compartment. Upon finally finding the latch to open it in a darkened parking space, our next target is to find where the coolant goes. In the old days, on any car (except the air-cooled engines) it is usually sitting right under the hood on top of the radiator within easy reach of the driver. It is almost embarrassing to use the car manual to find out where is the opening where the coolant goes. Then there is the warning that in this type of car, you have to know that not all “additives” or coolant are compatible with the engine. In the old days, any coolant is good enough for any car. Pure water is good enough also for several miles.
This is frustration getting on top of frustration. Since it is quite an expensive car, we expect it to perform almost flawlessly compared to vehicles at half its price. And there where the disappointment lays. We put high expectations on things just because they have very high cost.
The tow truck driver confirmed my suspicions further regarding this type of cars (luxury cars in general). He said that this brand is notorious for breaking down even when relatively brand new. He suggested that certain brands of cars made in a certain Asian country don’t even see the towing truck until they hit 250,000 miles. But this brand is usually his best customer. What a big letdown!
In our relationships, sometimes we expect too much from other people. I’ve seen parents push their children to go take some specializations in college because they think it’s a quick moneymaker, or their friend’s kid is going through the same college course and therefore her child should go the same route. The child actually hates going to this course but to honor the parents, they forced themselves to do it. More often than not, they don’t finish the course – resulting in needless expenses in a fruitless endeavor.
How do we deal with this? We have to look at materials things as things that deteriorate right after purchase. By lowering our expectations, when the breakdown comes, we feel we have foreseen it; therefore it’s not as frustrating. We can also do deep research into things to see which ones has more reliability according to buyers. From that research, we may have to buy a “lesser” car in terms of image – but a much dependable vehicle when it comes to mechanical reliability.
In our relationships, it is best to always apply our best efforts to it all the time. Then we should lower our expectations a little bit. Just because we think a certain way doesn’t necessitate that other people should be thinking the same way too. We have been given wisdom over the years, but other people may take additional years to receive that wisdom. It pays to be patient and nurturing – instead of impatience and judging. This is easier said than done, of course. But to be effective, it has to be practiced as opportunities present themselves. Then, after several tries – it will become a habit.
Take it easy!