In the previous posts, I discussed three incredibly wonderful resources: talent, time and money. They were things that were God-given which if we chose to use properly and to its optimum level – we could enjoy a satisfying, fruitful and full lives. The above resources, if squandered, leads to a life full of regrets, broken relationships, misery and other undesirable experiences. However, at any time (regardless of our age) we decide to use those resources properly, our life will start going in the opposite positive direction.
There are other blessings that are available to us – we could call it minor resources – and these are beauty, health and attitude. There could be dozens of other things there such as courage, honesty, integrity, perseverance,etc. But those things I feel are virtues instead of blessings. Those things are great also if part of what’s in us, but I think it would be better presented as a separate post.
So as usual, let’s get right to it…
It is really in the eyes of the beholder. One of my friends saw a supermodel in an airport and he said that she looked ordinary and short. But back then she was one of the top five supermodels. Is she not pretty? Naaah, she was still pretty. She just looked like any other pretty woman in the airport.
There is a lady or gentleman that may not look physically good-looking but the way they carry themselves makes them very attractive. A person may verge to be on left side of the border between ugly and gorgeous (right side being the gorgeous side), but when the person starts talking, you just get mesmerized and think they are attractive. So what’s my point? I’m saying that beauty is a subjective decision. DO NOT base your concept of beauty from Hollywood or TV personalities and highly photoshopped pictures of models. Rather base your conclusion on the overall person, not basing it on artificially generated “models of beauty” which leads to frustration.
Being good-looking opens doors for you. Statistics and studies indicate that good-looking people get the breaks and has a slight advantage over other less attractive people.
So if you are gorgeous already, what should you do? MAINTAIN it. Avoid habits and attitudes that will diminish your beauty. What about if you are a 5 or 6 in a scale of 10, being that 10 is beautiful (like Bo Derek in the movie 10 :)), then by all means improve your assets. How? Practice personal hygiene and proper grooming. Pick the right modest outfits (classical look is best because everyone loves classics). Practice good manners, improve your vocabulary and speech patterns, wear sunscreen and moisturize your skin. There are countless small adjustments you can make without spending a lot of money.
Now that you went from 5 to 8.75 in the scale – what’s next? Visit orphans and elderly people. They’ll delight just looking at you – the new gorgeous you! There are other things you can do to share what you have but I leave that to your creative imagination.
These days, I notice that most people are aware that they need to watch their health. The only drawback is that it seems that we so many kinds of theories, ideas, diets and exercise program that the average person gets confused. I am not a licensed nutritionist or a physical fitness guru (this is my disclosure statement) but here’s what I observed:
-Each individual has a unique diet requirement to truly eat healthy. I recommend getting a nutritionist to help you program your own healthy diet and vitamin and mineral supplements. Don’t just go to the herbal place or the Health Store Supermarket and start buying gingko biloba or ginger powder.
-Moderate exercise is best for most people. A short intense workout now and then helps your body get used to harder efforts. I recommend walking, bicycling, swimming and light weights like kettlebells. Check with your doctor first if you are new to exercising. Maybe even get a stress test.
-Rest and sleep are absolute necessity for recovery from the stresses of work life and the workout. Power naps less than 20 minutes gives more energy while naps of 2 hours of more can sometimes make it hard to sleep at night.
-Avoid recreational drugs. Your body will age way faster.
-Avoid smoking. Same as above and you will look way older than your real age within a few years.
-A glass of wine now and then is not bad. More means your liver gets diseased slowly.
-Get a medical exam regularly, especially if you are above 40 even if you feel you are relatively healthy. If you are diagnosed with a disease, research a lot using the internet, library, support groups and getting second or third opinions.
The healthier you are, the better quality of life you will have for yourself and for your loved ones.
Attitude is a big life changer. Observe a person with a positive attitude. Instantly he or she makes your life a bit livelier. Most of us would rather talk to a cheerful person than a grumpy one.
Try this before you go to a meeting: Face yourself in the mirror, smile to yourself and decide right there and then that you will have a VERY positive attitude at least for the next few minutes. Then go and meet the person(s) smiling and with a hearty handshake. Genuinely like the person. If you can’t, fake it until you develop the habit of liking almost any person you speak with. You will have a great meeting.
It has been proven time and time again that if you have a defeatist attitude, you will be defeated. But if your goal is to succeed or win, there’s a big probability that you will succeed.
To maintain a positive attitude: think of things that are lovely, pure, honest and things that make you happy. Don’t think about stressful experiences. Instead of thinking about people you hate, divert your thinking about people who make you laugh. Don’t gossip, because it creates a lot bad images about other people’s action. Positively think positive!
May you have a happy, prosperous life – my gorgeous friends!